Should we get tested for STDs before we stop using condoms?

I have been in a monogamous relationship for three months, and recently went on birth control pills. I have had one (protected) partner in the past, and my partner was a virgin before our relationship. Is it safe for us to stop using condoms? Do we need to get tested for STDs first?

It sounds like it’s unlikely that either of you has an STI, which would make it okay for you to stop using condoms if you’re comfortable with how effective birth control pills alone are and you trust your partner to continue being monogamous.

It wouldn’t be a terrible idea for you to get tested, though. It’s possible that you could have gotten an STI from your previous partner despite using protection. Non-penetrative skin to skin contact, a broken condom, and contact with bodily fluids can all sometimes be enough to contract an STI.

It might also be a good idea to make sure that your current partner’s definition of “virginity” means that they have not participated in any risky activities. Anal sex is not always counted toward virginity but can certainly spread STIs. Performing oral sex on a male can also pose some risk.

Recommendations: A general book about STDs, some condoms to keep using until you get tested, and another book about STDs.