How do I bring up sex toys with my partner?

What is the best way to broach the possibility of toy play with your mate?

You should try to think of your kinks as perks rather than things that your partner needs to tolerate and to bring up to your partner in this light. You should also keep in mind that toys generally aren’t particularly weird, as far as sexual interests go, though interest in some particular toys may be a little less common.

You should try to just bring it up (“How do you feel about sex toys?”), try to find some way to bring it up casually in conversation if you can’t bring it up upfront (“Have you seen this vibrator that plugs in to an iPod and goes with the rhythm?… Doesn’t that sound like fun?”), and try to broach the subject more generally before you talk about it more specifically (“Would you use sex toys?” before “I have handcuffs in my dresser!”).

If you already have a sex toy, you could always just pull it out some time, but that’s probably more likely to put off your partner if they’re not into the idea, so be cautious with that approach.

Recommendations: A couple of sex toys you could try (there is a huge variety of sex toys available just from amazon) and a basic guide to sex toys.