Why do women fake orgasms?

Why do women fake orgasms, and how can I tell if my girlfriend is faking hers?

Many women experience performance anxiety and have trouble reaching orgasm during sex or don’t know how to reach orgasm at all. But orgasm is often seen as the “goal” of sexual activity.

Women who have trouble reaching orgasm don’t want their partners to feel like an inadequate job has been done, and will sometimes fake orgasms to show their partners that they are enjoying themselves, or to avoid difficult explanations about not being able to reach orgasm. Some women will also fake orgasms if they’re tired and want to stop having sex, as lots of people feel obligated to continue until both partners have had an orgasm.

It is very difficult to tell if someone has faked an orgasm without machines to monitor heart rate, muscle tension, and brain activity. But there are a few things you can look for.

Orgasms cause muscle contractions in the vagina, so if you’re inside her and can’t feel anything different, that might be an indication that she’s faking. Orgasms also pretty consistently cause heavy breathing and increased heart rate, so if you specifically notice that those things haven’t happened, that could also reveal that it’s faked.

However, all three of those things can happen from sexual activity even if there’s no orgasm, so they’re not telltale signs that she’s had an orgasm either.

But really, if you’re worried that your girlfriend is deceiving you about her sexual satisfaction, you should be less concerned about trying to figure out how to catch the deception and more concerned about dealing with the honesty and trust issues in your relationship.

If she’s faking, it might be because she doesn’t feel comfortable telling you what feels good or asking you to do something differently. Or because she feels bad saying that she wants to stop and go to bed. Make sure she knows that you want her to communicate about things like that. Try to communicate about what feels good to you so that she feels more comfortable talking about herself.

Recommendations: A guide to knowing when a women is faking an orgasm and a general book for college students about relationships and sex.