Is sharing a room with my girlfriend a bad idea?

I got group housing with my girlfriend, though we’re only sharing the suite, not a room, at least officially. The relationship is good, but we haven’t really been together all that long. Getting advice before hand may have been a better idea, but I’m wondering whether this was a bad idea.

If you remain a couple, living together will probably be great. It’s more convenient, and it’s nice that you’re both living there officially. Often couples who sign up for separate housing end up living in only one of their houses anyway, and then it’s more cramped for the couple and the others who share the space.

Learning how to live with someone you’re in a relationship with is also an important skill, and learning if you can live with this particular person can be a good thing to know for your relationship. Even if learn that you can’t, it might be better to figure that out here than somewhere else, like when you’re sharing an apartment that’s too expensive for either of you to afford alone in a city with little available housing, for example.

If you break up, it won’t be fun regardless of what you do. Dealing with the emotions of breaking up itself is enough without having to continue sharing a space with the person you’ve just broken up with, having to flee your home, or having to move your home somewhere new. Of course, breaking up is usually hard, and the likely alternative that one of you would have to move out of a space you unofficially live in could be similar.

Hopefully though, if you need to move somewhere else because of a breakup, the housing department will understand. They might wish you hadn’t chosen to live together to start with, but they should be more concerned with what’s best for everyone now.

We don’t think you’re an idiot.

Recommendations: These two books about living with someone you’re in a relationship with could help you deal with any problems this situation causes.